Sunday Self-Love: Sept-Oct 2016

I told myself I would be doing these and I AM DOING THESE! I wanted to make them a once-a-month thing but I forgot to do it for a while, so here are some self-proclaimed Nikita Excellence™ and various ways I’ve been showing myself kindness.

  1. Cleaning my space. My head has been feeling cluttered and unclear so I took a couple of days to really clean and organize my space so I can feel like a grown woman in charge of my own life. I played “The Desired Effect” by Brandon Flowers on vinyl twice. It’s so happy and 80s-sounding and makes me feel like dancing and making my life better. I realize I put this on my last SSL post but at least you know I clean my room once a month.
  2. Forgiving myself for being imperfect in an imperfect body. You may have seen my previous post My Internal Monologue of Weight Gain (and Loss) that I’ve been fluctuating in my weight because FEELINGS. My body image and sense of comfort in my body has suffered but I’ve made the decision to let myself feel the feelings and cope with feelings. I shouldn’t beat myself up over something to temporary.
  3. I started using my agenda again to get shit done. I also bought a Passion Planner to REALLY get shit done.
  4. Attending Queen’s 2016 Homecoming! It has been 5 years since I graduated and I have a lot of feelings about Queen’s University, my growth, and the people I’ve crossed paths with. It was really great going back! (Longer post about this pending.)
  5. I listened to the Hamilton soundtrack and it has healed me.
  6. I made an active real effort to read more. I haven’t finished a book yet because I haven’t fallen into any that I love, but it feels sooooo nice to curl up in a blanket and read something for a few hours. I began Daughters Who Walk This Path by Yejide Kilanko and I’ve been sitting halfway through Harry Potter and the Cursed Child for a while now. Mostly it’s been listening to M is for Magic by Neil Gaiman on audiobook as I drift off to sleep.

Retail Therapy & Chill: Etsy Faves

Like many others, when I feel down I fill the void in my soul with material goods. But you may recall from a previous post that I am in no position to be buying:

a) anything that is not immediately useful
b) anything I can’t use for work
c) anything

But am I going to let my pesky finances stand in the way of retail glory? You know me better than that. Of course I did buy some actual things of varying usefulness (thank you, Visa) but I also quelled my online shopping demons by going fave-crazy on Etsy. Nothing useful enough to give away my dollars but some very amusing items for a maybe possibly later date. Here’s what I’ve been loving on Etsy!

Grocery Totes

Don’t get confused; I don’t go grocery shopping. I just like the idea of these cute little totes because it makes me pine for the day where I’m a strong independent lady that gets her own shit done. Like grocery shopping.

$26.94 CAD

I also enjoyed the ones that said:
Hunter Gatherer
Make Terrible Choices & Regret Nothing
Because Reasons

Planner Stamps/Stickers

My planner is my lifeline, especially when I fall into funks when I can’t keep my own life in order. I like to take the time to organize and label and pre-write dates (especially pay days!). I’ve been falling out of sync with my planner and I think some stamps or stickers might brighten things up and help me stay organized.

$3.80 CAD

$5.58 CAD

The pay day sticker is kawaii af but if you are a boring person and want a simple little stamp, there’s always this option. Or you can look for a set that meets your planning needs!

Wax Seals

Listen. I know it’s not 1820, but sometimes it’s nice to be fancy. I’ve always liked that people had their own seals that were representative of themselves or their family. Plus seals are so pretty and elegant and surprisingly not as expensive as you would think. After looking at a number of designs I saw this peacock feather pattern and I decided it must be mine one day. (It’d be a nice touch for this year’s Christmas cards too!)

$13.20 CAD

Book Owner Stamps

Now that I’m becoming increasingly picky with what books I keep and what I donate, I feel the need to claim the keepers in a more decisive way than simply writing my name in them. Not all my books; just the ones that have a spot in my heart’s library*.

$33.66 CAD

I love the classy and elegant script that will mark my books as mine but you can get a stamp that really speaks to your personality. You can go quite ornate, or simple and cute. I actually quite like the idea of a snail stamp for my books as a wink to my embarrassing reading speed.

* “heart’s library” is probably the cheesiest thing I’ve ever said, PLEASE forgive me

Bath Bombs

I’m sorry.
I’m sorry.
I’m sorry.
I’m (not really) sorry.

I didn’t even like baths until I discovered bath bombs. The fact that I know I’ll never get the tub as clean as I want it pre-bath is a huge deterrent. But guess what! If you get bath bombs with a ton of shit in them, you won’t even notice that stray hair floating by. Plus they’re relaxing af and smell real nice. Great for shitty times. I found a vendor on Etsy that’s been selling Steven Universe themed bath bombs and I want them all.

$6.06 CAD

They seem to use scents that are pertinent to the show and characters. There’s a bath bomb for Pearl, Garnet, Sadie, and Lapis!

Now that you have a sense of the dumb eclectic shit I browse on Etsy you may understand why I chose not to buy them. But man, hitting that fave button sure feels good, and if I really find the need to spend $30 on a grocery bag then I know where to go.